the worsts of life and leaving a legacy

i attended my second funeral today, in one week.

each was heart wrenching.  

i was telling a friend last night, that there are "the worsts" of life.

those would be:

watching your children in pain

seeing your spouse in pain

witnessing your parents hurting

and 

watching a lifelong friend endure the same.


if you live or have lived in dubois over the past 39 years ::), then more than likely you know my friend molly.  or maybe you know her huge beautiful family, the males family.  or even her gorgeous talented kids, zachary & savannah...


i have had the privilege of having molly as my life long friend for over 25 years.  there is no one like her.  she has the perfect mix of joy, brains, tenacity, love, compassion and strength that altogether make her one of those people that EVERYBODY not only knows, but loves. 

gosh, i love her.  she and my friend tammy - the three of us have been friends forever.  we all turn 40 this year.  we have experienced a lot of good, and a lot of not so good life in these years of our friendship.  

molly lived with her grandparents for most of her life. pup and gram, were everything to her….and pup and gram were pup and gram to all of molly's friends too.  

molly said good-bye to her pup today.  my heart could hardly take watching her pain.  i know her pup has only switched "residences."  no longer will his body walk in dubois, but now in heaven.  even knowing this, death is still painful….and watching the one you love in pain, is awful .

but something so beautiful happened these past few days….and i am so proud to share it with you.


"pup", dick males, served in the dubois volunteer fire department for over 60 years.  

our small town is protected by these courageous men (and women!) like dick.  the men VOLUNTEER to put their lives on the line with every siren call. their sleep is disturbed, their families become part of that commitment as well.  a dinner, a ball game, a birthday party…when the siren sounds, the men go.  

last nite, fire chiefs from across the STATE drove in to pay their respects and deliver a last salute. the local fire companies all took rounds last night….parking their hose house fire truck in front of the  funeral home one by one.  and today, at his funeral, many many of his fellow fireman were there again.  the sorrow they felt in losing dick, the love and support they gave to his family, the tributes they offered to him, made my heart just swell with pride.  

an image i took from my seat today at the funeral.  i wish i would have had my real camera with me  

an image i took from my seat today at the funeral.  i wish i would have had my real camera with me  

the eulogy at pup's funeral today, was so comforting, given by reverend dave naegle.  dave knew dick personally for many years.  as i sat and listened to the life story of dick males, the love he shared with others, the encouragement he gave to everyone, his humor, the love he had for his family….i couldn't help but to feel proud to have known this man, who lived such a fulfilled, dedicated life.  and how all of those traits that he poured out on people, people also poured back into his life.  the love his family has for him…the lifelong friends that he had, and the fireman that he served with.  

he lived a life of pouring and being filled, and pouring out, and being filled…..and i think, isn't that a life of being FULFILLED?  i believe so.  

goodbye pup.  you certainly have left a legacy.  there was no one like him.  a perfect mix of joy, brains, tenacity, love, compassion and strength that altogether made him one of those people that EVERYBODY not only knew, but loved. EXACTLY like somebody else i know.  

love  you mol cat

love  you mol cat